We got married on Friday, February 7th, 2020 in Abiquiu, New Mexico. We invited only our parents and siblings for a small and intimate ceremony. Our amazing friend, abby mohaupt (who also happens to be a minister), helped us create the most magical ceremony and ritual to celebrate our love.
The date: We chose February 7th with guidance from our astrologer, Bonnie Faith. During the beginning of the day, the moon was in Cancer (emotional and sweet) and later switched into Leo (celebratory and fun). The moon was almost full (the powerful full moon energy is present for 2-3 days before and after the peak full moon).
The location: No, we are not from New Mexico and do not have any family in New Mexico. We chose Abiquiu, New Mexico because Ngugi and I have been there once before and felt drawn and connected to the land. Abiquiu is stunning, vast, quiet, and feels so sacred (Georgia O'Keeffe chose it as her home to live and paint!)
The ceremony: We got married outside overlooking a lake and gorgeous cliffs. My dad officiated the wedding which was so, so special. Each of our family members had a part to play in the ceremony. It was important to us that each of our family members was actively included in our ceremony and not just watching as a bystander.
Opening: My dad welcomed everyone, acknowledged the land we were on, and asked each parent to name and presence our grandparents. Ngugi's older sister read the Prayer of Saint Francis:
Lord, make us instruments of your peace.
Where there is hatred, let us sow love;
Where there is injury, pardon;
Where there is discord, union;
Where there is doubt, faith;
Where there is despair, hope;
Where there is darkness, light;
Where there is sadness, joy;
O Divine Master, Grant that we may not so much seek
To be consoled as to console,
To be understood as to understand,
To be loved as to love.
For it is in giving that we receive;
It is in pardoning that we are pardoned;
And it is in dying that we are born to eternal life.
Blessing our wedding rings: Ngugi's nephew explained the ring ceremony. My mom was holding my ring, and Ngugi's mom was holding his ring. Our mom's said a prayer together and put our rings into a bowl of water. Ngugi and I chanted the Gayatri Mantra, a mantra for always remembering the light, over the rings. We passed the bowl of water with the rings in it to each person and everyone said one thing that they wished for our marriage.
Reflections on marriage: My dad talked about what it takes to maintain a partnership, and Ngugi's younger sister read a poem called Here's to Right Now, by ms moem.
You’re surrounded by your loved ones
And all are wishing you well,
As you create a brand new chapter
In the story that’s yours to tell.
We talk about the memories
You have yet to make together
And the moments you’ve already shared
To be carried with you forever.
But take the time to live today
As your marriage begins,
Look around and soak it up;
the moment we are in.
For this is where the magic starts
When you both say your vows.
You pledge to spend your lives as one
Because of the love you feel now.
So yes, here’s to a future
that is bright and warm and clear.
But more than that, here’s to right now
And what it means to be here.
Closing: Ngugi and I said our vows to each other, my dad pronounced us as married, and we kissed. My brother read a closing poem, Namaste, by Rajender Krishan.
This simple word
uttered with a gesture of folded hands
is among the finest salutations,
mankind has ever been able to vocalize.
It simply means:
I honor the place in you
In which the entire Universe dwells
That place of Love and Light
And of Truth and of Peace
When you are in that place in you
And I am in that place in me
We are One.
It was perfect and I am so grateful to everyone who was a part of it. Thank you for reading!