How to make life happen for you instead of to you

In 2017, something amazing happened. Life wasn’t just happening to me anymore -- life was happening for me and with me. I finally felt like I was co-creating my life. I set BIG career goals and personal goals and achieved every single one. It definitely didn’t just happen by chance, it took a lot of work and focus but the payoff was so worth it.

For 2018, I have even bigger goals. I love January and the energy of the new year because it can be such a powerful time to set new, meaningful goals to create the life we want. Here’s the steps I’ve been following (and will follow again this year) when goal-setting to achieve what I want:

  • Visualize & clarify: Visualize exactly what you want to make happen in the future. Visualize where you will be, who will be there, what you will be doing, and how it will feel. Get as detailed and clear in your visualizations as you can, and do them as frequently as you can. I added a visualization component to my morning meditations so that I make sure I do at least one visualization everyday. The clearer you are about where you are trying to get to, the easier it will be to get there. If you don’t know where you are aiming, its extremely difficult to hit your target.

  • Know your “why”: Get clear about why you want to achieve your goals. Often we forget about our goals or don’t care about them anymore because the reason motivating us to do them wasn’t strong enough. So ask yourself (or better yet - journal the answers), how will this goal add value to your life? How will this goal add value to the lives of your family, friends, and coworkers? How will this goal add value to your bigger community or to the world at large? The universe supports us when we have goals that serve other people. Self-serving goals are usually short-lived. The more people your goal serves, the more powerful your goal will be.

  • Take action: Obviously, we can’t create the life we want just by visualizing it. We need to take action strategically. Here’s how I do it. First, set a timeline for your long-term goal and list the major action steps required of you to get there. From there, set smaller short-term goals with shorter timelines and list the action steps required. For example, if you have a long-term goal that will take one year, set actionable goals for each 3 month mark. Continue to break down into smaller short-term goals (monthly, weekly, daily). Find a way to hold yourself accountable, like a journal or calendar. It takes a little bit more work initially, but saves time and energy in the long run.

Happy co-creating and happy new year! Please reach out to me if I can support you at all with your goal-setting process (one of my favorite things!).

With love,